Obama’s Baby Mama (as she’s called by conservatives on Fox News)
general, politics, racial politics, social justice 19 June 2008 No Comments »

It seems that some conservatives hate strong women who happened to be married to strong Democratic political candidates. Or maybe it’s simply that strong women make easy targets.
Hillary Clinton has learned that the hard way . . . twice. First, she was reviled as Bill Clinton’s nerdy, ultra-feminist wife. And then she transformed into a bitchy, ball-busting candidate to be President of the United States who didn’t appeal to large segments of the US population until she teared up on camera and showed she was a “real” woman.
Largely for the same reason, Michelle Obama had to go on “The View” (a US daytime talk show with a predominantly female audience) to show her “warmer” side, though it should be said that she didn’t cry. It seems that many conservatives attack any woman in the political sphere who’s not as unassuming, dainty, non-threatening and “lady-like” as Laura Bush, who knows that her correct place is beside (or more likely, behind) her husband and who evokes the image of the good homemaker and mother (as opposed to strong career woman and intellectual equal).
Not that the two are necessarily contradictory. I grew up with both of my parents in a relatively happy home, but I have no doubt that a large part of whom I am is because of who and how my mother is. She was a force of nature in our family, inspiring all of us to get the best education possible and kicking our butts when necessary. My sister good-humoredly compares my mother to Mama Rose in Gypsy, but my mother also spoiled us, buying us Reeboks when we begged for them even though money was tight or cooking our favorite Jamaican foods whenever we returned home from college. And yes, calling at least once a week once we left home to know how we were doing even as we consistently evaded her phone calls. She did all of that, went back for an advanced degree after we emigrated to the US and worked a full-time job.
And it seems that Michelle Obama had a similar path. She has two young daughters and until the recent campaign, a full-time executive job. And let’s face it, being a mom is not for wimps, much less a mom with a full-time executive job who’s also supporting her husband’s political career and has degrees from both Princeton and Harvard.
So it’s a bit sad that people are attacking her for being too “tough”. And it’s a little bit sad that she needs to go on national TV to prove that she’s “warm”, even though she’s not the one running for president. Certainly a male candidate would never be criticized for being too tough or not warm enough, and I can’t imagine that if Hillary had won the nomination, Bill would be on “The View” showing his warm, fuzzy side. In fact, a lot of people were annoyed when Bill so vigorously and pugnaciously defended his wife, but up to a certain point I guess it was normal, maybe even “chivalrous”.
That made it all the more heartwarming when Michelle paid tribute to the battles that Hillary Clinton has had to fight over the last 16 years, to prove that she can be both tough and feminine at the same time. I was touched that Michelle noted that Hillary was a pioneer, a fighter, and that sexism had played some not unimportant role in the news media’s coverage of Hillary.
In Michelle’s own words: “It’s only when women like her take the hits and it’s painful, it’s hurtful, but she’ s taking them so that my girls, when they come along, won’t have to feel it as badly,” Mrs. Obama said.
See the full interview below.